Youth athletes, like everyone else, need to be praised. Parents who support their youth athletes by regularly showing love and encouragement are helping them become better team players. Plus, children who are frequently encouraged are more optimistic, better able to handle criticism, more coachable and more likely to listen and respond without resistance.
Children learn to better take constructive criticism over time. So, when providing your child with advice, it’s helpful to mix specific, truthful pieces of praise with each critique. Honesty is critical, because children sense insincere praise, and might lose respect for the person offering it and refuse to listen. To help your child become a better team player, for example, you might say, “You usually do a great job passing the ball, but I noticed that you only passed it once in the first quarter. I know you want to be a good sport, so I’m sure you can be a great team player next time.”
Honest and constructive criticism should always be provided in a way that is kid-friendly and useful. For example, instead of simply telling your child to "pay attention," which offers nothing actionable, say, “When you have a hard time staying focused, try giving yourself a pep-talk to get re-focused.”
Supporting your youth athlete in these ways will help him or her learn to love sports and have a more positive experience. Liberty Mutual Insurance Play Positive™, in partnership with Positive Coaching Alliance, created this tool for ways you can encourage your child during and after the game.
At Liberty Mutual Insurance, we constantly look for ways to celebrate the countless acts of sportsmanship and integrity shown by people every day. We created Play Positive™, powered by Positive Coaching Alliance, as part of this belief to help ensure that our kids experience the best that sports have to offer in environments that promote and display good sportsmanship. We believe kids can learn valuable life lessons when coaches and parents come together to support winning on and off the ice.
In an effort to benefit millions of youth athletes, parents and coaches, this article is among a series created exclusively for partners in the Liberty Mutual Insurance Play Positive™ program powered by Positive Coaching Alliance.
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QUESTION: Where do i find the rule for period length for 8U, 10U, 12U, etc? Can 10U play 12-minute periods instead of 15? Is it up to the local jurisdiction to set the period length?
ANSWER: Period (and game) length is at the discretion of Youth Hockey Associations and local USA Hockey Affiliate Bodies. Therefore, we recommend contacting them with this question.
QUESTION: What level is an official if they fail the Level 3 Closed Book Exam? If you miss 11 questions, is that official a Level 1 or Level 2 official?
ANSWER: A Level 3 Official applicant that fails the Level 3 Closed Book Exam is immediately eligible for Level 2 if they achieve an 85/100 on the Open Book Exam.
QUESTION: What is the protocol and process for an official to submit and incident report where a coach received a game misconduct or a match penalty?
ANSWER: All game reports should be submitted using the USA Hockey Online Game Report System.
QUESTION: A "50/50 Puck" is located along the boards and one skater is faster than another. The slower skater, knowing he cannot get to the puck first, hits the other player on their way to the puck. I have seen this happen during practices and coaches have made no correction to players. Is this permitted at the 10U Level where body-checking is not allowed?
ANSWER: Body-checking at the 10 & Under Level is not permitted in the USA Hockey Playing Rules. Furthermore, a player who makes deliberate and intentional contact with an opponent who is not in possession of the puck should be penalized for Interference.
QUESTION: Can a Misconduct be assessed to a coach after the game and what rule is it covered under?
ANSWER: There are no rules in the USA Hockey Playing Rules that allow a Misconduct penalty to be assessed to a coach.
However, a coach can be assessed a Game Misconduct before, during, or after a game. Most of those penalties can be found under Rule 601 (Abuse of Officials & Other Misconduct).